Violent and Challenging Behaviour in Children with Additional Needs

For Parents and for Frontline Staff who work with

Children and  Families

 

Yvonne Newbold

With Yvonne Newbold
Contact Yvonne via email at
yvonne@yvonnenewbold.com

 

 

What would you do if your child attacked you?

On a street somewhere near where you live, there are parents living in constant fear of their own special needs child physically hurting them and other family members. They often suffer in silence because, unless it has Yvonne Newbold VCBhappened within your own family, people don’t understand that it happens at all. If a family tries to talk about it, even to the staff within health, education or social services who are tasked with helping and supporting the most vulnerable families in our society, they are often met with disbelief, judgement, or the finger-pointing of blame. Instead, it becomes the saddest family secret of all, with families dealing with significant levels of violence in their own homes, and without any help , understanding or support at all.

Families can’t contain their child’s violence forever. Without help and support to enable the child to find more acceptable ways of expressing their distress, anxieties, frustrations and overwhelmedness , the violence will escalate, becoming increasingly dangerous as they Yvonne Newbold VCB grow bigger and stronger. It is no co-incidence that there is a high level of young adults in the criminal justice system who have neurodevelopmental additional needs – but we can and we must break this cycle, so that this generation of children who struggle with their behaviour don’t have to face such a bleak future.

It doesn’t have to be like this, each one of us can do what we can to acknowledge the widespread issue of VCB, and pull together to find ways to give these children back their childhoods, and give their families back some hope.

What can we do about it?

A great first step would be if we can acknowledge that VCB happens in thousands of homes around the country, then to increase our knowledge and understanding of the underlying causes and how to best help and support this group of children and their families.

Yvonne NewboldYvonne has developed a series of talks and workshops specifically to address these difficulties. They focus on Violent and Challenging Behaviour (VCB), that is specific to children and young people with a neurodevelopmental condition such as a learning disability, autism, PDA, ADHD and many others.

She offers workshops for both professional staff and for parents, either a full-day or half a day. She also offers talks which cover the issues, which can also include a question and answer session, as well as group discussions following the talks.

VCB Workshops for Healthcare Professionals, Education and Social Services Staff

Learning Objectives

  • How to recognise the problem
  • Understanding of the underlying causes
  • Understanding of how the child feels
  • How to support the family in seeking help
  • Exploring strategies can help the child reduce their violence
  • Working with families and children collaboratively and without judgement

Each Workshop covers  –

  • What is VCB? And why it differs from other forms of child to parent violence or other forms of domestic abuse
  • The Stigma Surrounding VCB and the effects this has on the family
  • Seeking Help – and why families find this is so difficult, and what they most need from you in terms of support
  • Why VCB Happens – looking at extreme anxiety and it’s causes in children with a neurodevelopmental condition such as an intellectual disability, autism or ADHD
  • Diagnostic overshadowing
  • How all behaviour is a form of communication, and we just have to find and collect the clues to learning what the child is trying to tell us
  • The Fight and Flight Response
  • What anxiety can look like in children and young people
  • Common Causes of anxiety in children with neurodevelopmental differences

❖ Sensory Issues  ❖ Communication  ❖ Rigid Routines  ❖ Resistance to change    ❖ Transitions

❖ Processing speed    ❖ Theory of Mind   ❖ Masking    ❖ Inflexible thinking

  • Looking at it from the child’s perspective and working outwards from there
  • Solutions – Strategies, Approaches and Thinking Differently
  • The Positive Behaviour Support Approach
  • Why parenting courses don’t work for families coping with VCB
  • How to work with families collaborately and without judgement
  • What next?

Half-day (3 hours including break) and full-day (6.5 hours including breaks) Workshops available. In a full-day workshop there is more time for discussion, and topics are covered in more depth, with ample time for reflection and consolidation of learning.

 

Optional add – on – Thirty minutes of deep relaxation and mindfulness bliss with Malcolm Cooper at the end of the workshop

 

 

Workshops work best in groups of up to 35 people. In larger groups, talks generally work better. A talk can also incorporate question and answer sessions or break-out discussion group sessions to explore the topics in greater depth. Please contact Yvonne to discuss further.

For more information on this or any of the workshops Yvonne is able to offer, please contact her via email on

yvonne@yvonnenewbold.com

 

 

VCB Workshops for Parents and Family Carers

Learning Objectives

  • Understanding the underlying causes of VCB

  • What it feels like from your child’s point of view

  • Exploring strategies that can reduce violent and challenging behaviour

  • How to protect your own well-being and mental-health

  • Help and support, how to get it,

  • How to reduce the risk of being misunderstood and blamed when asking for help

Each Workshop covers –

  • What is VCB? And why it differs from other forms of child to parent violence or other forms of domestic abuse

  • The Stigma Surrounding VCB and the effects this has on you and your whole family

  • Seeking Help – and why this is so difficult, as well as what you can do to overcome it

  • Why VCB Happens – looking at extreme anxiety and it’s causes in children with a neurodevelopmental condition such as an intellectual disability, autism or ADHD

  • Diagnostic overshadowing

  • How all behaviour is a form of communication, and we just have to find and collect the clues to learning what the child is trying to tell us

  • The Fight and Flight Response

  • What anxiety can look like in children and young people

  • Common Causes of anxiety in children with neurodevelopmental differences

❖ Sensory Issues ❖ Communication   ❖ Rigid Routines ❖ Resistance to change        ❖ Processing speed              ❖ Transitions      ❖ Theory of Mind         ❖ Inflexible thinking         ❖ Masking

  • Looking at it from the child’s perspective and working outwards from there

  • Solutions – Strategies, Approaches and Thinking Differently • Why parenting courses don’t work for families coping with VCB

  • How to effectively get your points across to professional staff

  • Looking after you – building resilience, resourcefulness and ring-fencing time to think, relax and have “me-time”

  • The Positive Behaviour Support Approach

 

What next?

  Workshops – either Half-day and full-day or Talks – tailored in length and content to your audience

Half-day (3 hours including break) and full-day (6.5 hours including breaks) Workshops available. In a full-day workshop there is more time for discussion, and topics are covered in more depth, with ample time for reflection and consolidation of learning.

 

Malcolm Cooper Yvonne Newbold

 

 

Optional add – on – Thirty minutes of deep relaxation and mindfulness bliss with Malcolm Cooper at the end of the workshop

 

 

Workshops work best in groups of up to 35 people. In larger groups, talks generally work better. A talk can also incorporate question and answer sessions or break-out discussion group sessions to explore the topics in greater depth. Please contact Yvonne to discuss further.

For more information on this or any of the workshops Yvonne is able to offer, please contact her via email on

yvonne@yvonnenewbold.com

 

 About Yvonne Newbold

Mother; Author of The Special Parent’s Handbook; Speaker; Trainer; WHIS Ambassador, Autism, Learning Disabilities & Families; Advisor, NHS England Learning Disabilities & Autism; School for Change Agents Graduate 2017; PENNA Outstanding Contribution to Patient Experience Award 2016; LDT Learning Disability Champion Award 2015; HSJ Top 50 Inspirational Women in Healthcare Award 2014; PTTLS Level 3

When Yvonne was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer and learnt that she probably had a life expectancy of two years at best, she knew exactly what her bucket list was going to be. She wanted to do whatever she could to make theSpecial Parents Handbook lives of the next generation of children like her own medically fragile and profoundly disabled son, Toby, significantly better, and improve the quality of life for their families. That’s what she has been doing ever since, firstly but writing her book “The Special Parent’s Handbook” and since then by speaking at conferences, designing and delivering workshops, and supporting families and the staff who work with their children in any way she can. One aspect of Special Needs Parenting that Yvonne has focused on particularly is the lack of help and support for families where a child, often with a diagnosis of autism, a learning disability or ADHD, is violent and destructive at home. She has organised a conference on this issue, she runs training courses, workshops and gives talks about the underlying causes and what can help to reduce these behaviours.  Meanwhile, Yvonne has so far survived nearly five years since she was given her original prognosis, and her on-going treatment seems to be working far better than anyone once dared to hope it would.

What people say about Yvonne’s Workshops

Knowing I wasn’t alone. Learning to change my thinking and understanding

Fantastic. Very helpful information. Inspirational lady. Highly recommended

Such an inspiring woman delivering a fantastic workshop. Every SEND parent should attend

I could listen to Yvonne speak all day long

I don’t feel alone with these problems anymore

Please please do more of these sessions, they are so fantastic and you are a brilliant speaker!

The best sessions ever! So informative and apt. Thank you. 

Listening to Yvonne and getting ideas has made me think differently

I enjoyed the different techniques that we enjoyed today – all things we can try with other service users

The personal way it was delivered – Yvonne really gets how it is for parents, she “gets it”. 

Listening to an extremely calm voice of reason! Thank you I would like to listen to more of your talking

It was a lovely training session. I really enjoyed it and learnt a lot. Thank you

Everyone from management to other professionals needs Yvonne’s training 

Listening to positive stories that reminded me of me! 

Thank you for sharing such wonderful knowledge Yvonne

Everything! So relaxed and heartfelt

 

You may also be interesting in Overcoming the Challenges, held in  London once a month on Saturday mornings.

Yvonne and Mark Brown have teamed up to cover the basics in both Violent and Challenging Behaviour and Puberty and Growing up Safely. Tickets are already on sale for 6th January 2017, or you can pre-book the later dates, 3rd February and 3rd March, by contacting Yvonne directly on yvonne@yvonnenewbold.com

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